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whedon’s weird “mysterious waifish little girl who is mentally ill but in a way that makes her doll-like and sexy” fixation is a plague that must be purged from the very face of mass media with the flames of a thousand hells 

I’ve seen a few posts about this apparent Whedon-Trend - I guess prompted by the after-credits scene in Guardians of the Galaxy? And maybe I’m not familiar enough with the Whedonverse to really get it but I will say that I have heard people refer to River as a “sexy” character. But I don’t know if in her case the problem was her characterization, as far as I can tell the problem is more in the attitude that messed-up young girls are a “sexy” thing. 
Like, I had heard people refer to River as Sexy before watching Firefly so as I was watching the show I was like, waiting for it. Waiting for her to be sultry or sensual or something and it never happened and I was left thinking “what the hell are people talking about, River isn’t sexy at all?” She’s introduced naked, she’ conventionally attractive, she’s powerful, but he’s not sexy. Her nudity is not done sexily, unless to your mind hurt and abused and scared are “sexy” traits. I guess in a lot of media and in the minds of some people they are and I think that’s gross - so I see why people are complaining, because breaking girls is getting old. But I think we need to somehow check that attitude toward broken girls in more than just media tropes. Honestly, I liked how it was done with River better than a lot of other interpretations of the trope. 

Anyway I watched Firefly half-waiting or expecting River to somehow be a “sexy” character and she wasn’t. And I later asked my boyfriend about it and he was like “what? No! River isn’t sexy. Malcolm Reynolds is sexy, but River?” 
And that’s why I like him. 

lmao nowhere did it say that characters like river were portrayed as sexy in the “saunters in a black dress w/ a slit in the side smoking a cigarette and batting her horriffic l’oreal-manga-eyes lashes’ sense, correct me if i wasnt BUT i think i was pretty clear that she’s written ‘sexily’ in the sense that her illness & the vulnerability & codependency she displays are treated in this weird uncomfortable fetishistic way… which, btw, is not a type of sexualization that critics of whedon are making up on the spot it’s something thats very present in media and joss himself really likes for some reason and its not like people who point that undertone out are the Real Sickos for noticing it…

also just because river specifically is an iteration of that trope who gets to swing around an axe in the end doesnt mean the use of the trope itself isnt totally suspect 

First of all, I say “sultry, sensual” you say: “‘saunters in a black dress w/ a slit in the side smoking a cigarette and batting her horriffic l’oreal-manga-eyes lashes’”
So if you’re response to me saying that what I think is appropriate to label as a sexy thing for a character to be is something of a caricature the includes the word “horrific” that’s…offputting, to say the least. 

I’m not advocating for MORE male-gaze-appeasing here, I’m saying that sexy, on a societal perception level, shouldn’t include hurt, broken, helpless. I know it does, currently, and I’ve seen that people look at River as a character that satisfies these points, I just don’t like that being this is what makes her sexy. I think, actually, we basically agree on that one. Furthermore, there’s nothing wrong with a sultry, sexy female character who owns her sexuality - provided that she isn’t solely defined by it. I said that when I hear a character is supposed to be “sexy” I expect something more to that tone. And I’m lamenting, I guess, that that expectation doesn’t run closer to true.

Moving on though, I get that fetishizing mental illness and broken women and so on is a thing that happens in media, and I agree that it’s awful. I’m not saying that the trope is a-okay, it’s definitely one of the more annoying things done to female characters to have them be “broken” in order to have other cool powers or whatever. And the idea of broken being sexy is a creepy perception to me. It’s a male power fantasy. Neither of us like it.
I’m not saying it’s all fine or that if you see problems in it it makes you some kinda creep. I didn’t really catch any sexualization with River the way I’ve seen the “broken” thing done as sexy before, but I haven’t been picking her scenes apart or anything and maybe I could stand to look harder? Maybe it’s just more subtle.

I guess a better way to put it, which I think was what I was eventually trying to get to in my previous post, is that what really bugs me, more than say just creating messed up characters, is societal sexualization of broken girls in general - which didn’t start with Whedon. Like, I don’t see a character like River as someone who SHOULD be sexy. To me sexy means agency and owning it and confidence etc. I know that societally, fragility=sexy, and I guess all I’m saying is that’s the problem. River isn’t the problem, necessarily. Joss very well might see her as a sexy character and want to do the whole she’s-broken-so-she’s-sexy male power fantasy thing with her, but I think the route of the problem is that there’s a perception of broken as sexy AT ALL.

It’s kind of a “this is why we can’t have nice things” rant, to me, like I think River’s backstory was interesting, though obviously tragic - and I wish there was more balance on the tragic-backstories front and that it wasn’t the default thing for female characters to have. I think her character could have had potential if the show had been kept on, and I think it’s kind of sad and shitty that with media and society the way it is a character like her’s gets sexualized - whether it’s fetishistic in the writing or in fan interpretations or both or what. But in terms of the writing of Firefly, personally I didn’t see as much of the gross as I’ve seen in some other things. 
Like I’m on board? We share the same frustration? I’m not saying “fetishize mental illness! go nuts!” I’m just sayin’, you know, there’s more to correct here than just a trope - there’s a whole structure set up that needs dismantling. The problem to me isn’t (just?) that River is broken. The problem is that broken is sexy. It shouldn’t be.   

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whedon’s weird “mysterious waifish little girl who is mentally ill but in a way that makes her doll-like and sexy” fixation is a plague that must be purged from the very face of mass media with the flames of a thousand hells 

I’ve seen a few posts about this apparent Whedon-Trend - I guess prompted by the after-credits scene in Guardians of the Galaxy? And maybe I’m not familiar enough with the Whedonverse to really get it but I will say that I have heard people refer to River as a “sexy” character. But I don’t know if in her case the problem was her characterization, as far as I can tell the problem is more in the attitude that messed-up young girls are a “sexy” thing. 
Like, I had heard people refer to River as Sexy before watching Firefly so as I was watching the show I was like, waiting for it. Waiting for her to be sultry or sensual or something and it never happened and I was left thinking “what the hell are people talking about, River isn’t sexy at all?” She’s introduced naked, she’ conventionally attractive, she’s powerful, but he’s not sexy. Her nudity is not done sexily, unless to your mind hurt and abused and scared are “sexy” traits. I guess in a lot of media and in the minds of some people they are and I think that’s gross - so I see why people are complaining, because breaking girls is getting old. But I think we need to somehow check that attitude toward broken girls in more than just media tropes. Honestly, I liked how it was done with River better than a lot of other interpretations of the trope. 

Anyway I watched Firefly half-waiting or expecting River to somehow be a “sexy” character and she wasn’t. And I later asked my boyfriend about it and he was like “what? No! River isn’t sexy. Malcolm Reynolds is sexy, but River?” 
And that’s why I like him. 

river is waifish, dependent, always completely graceful but also fragile like a doll, like a princess, like a sexual object

her mental illness is treated as just another aspect of her fragility and honestly she was pretty fucking fetishized, but she’s also not the only one that falls into this trope

drusilla, faith, ‘dark’ willow, buffy in season six— all of them are powerful, sexy, fragile women whose fraglity is explicitly, within the context of the show they’re set in, part of their sexuality; you want them because they are fragile, because they are broken, because they are mentally ill and are still the most powerful person in the room

now i’ll admit, i’m not actually familiar enough with doll house or angel to comment— i haven’t watched them several times, and i don’t like to speculate— but i’ve heard this about most of the characters in doll house and about a few in angel

and on top of that, wanda was pretty blatantly channeling river tam in the same way that natasha was channeling buffy in the avengers, and i’m not too fond of the trope regardless of who’s writing it

whedon has a fixation on fragile-but-sexy-because-they-could-kill-you-i-guess women and it stands out the more of his media i consume

I’m not saying I have no problems with the break-a-girl-to-make-her-powerful/interesting/mysterious trope. Because fucking hell do I have some problems with that. And I’m not saying that there’s no problem ever with the whole female-characer-is-abued-so-she-basically-checks-out-and-wrecks-shit thing. There are a slew of problems with that thing. And one of the problems is that weakness, fragility, whatever, is apparently supposed to be sexy. I’m not getting into the rest of Whedon’s stuff because I’m not familiar enough with it, but I just didn’t get a sexual vibe from the way River was written - I could be missing it, but that’s just how I took it. Like I said, I think the trope of breaking girls is way overdone and I think it has a lot of problems. I just also think that there’s more than River being Broken wrong here. I think Broken being Sexy is the bigger problem. I think the idea of River being Sexy stems from Broken being Sexy and when Broken stops being Sexy River can be Broken without being Sexy. She was to me. And I think “Broken is Sexy” is a really gross male power fantasy and I don’t like it and I wish I could have diverse female characters, including, on occasion Broken Girls who are Not Sexy and Have Depth. I think River could be a character like that if the show had kept going, and if it were not for the already present view of Broken is Sexy in society and media. But maybe I ought to watch again, maybe the writing does push her character in a sexual direction, I didn’t find so, but many people apparently do so. 

To be honest I have no idea if Whedon indulges in this gross fantasy, some people think his writing points to the fact that he does - and having not consumed enough of it to comment I really don’t know - but I’ll take your word for it if he trends that way in other works (I really like both Buffy and Natasha for the most part but I’m not in that deep and I’m sure they aren’t perfect). I didn’t think his writing of River leaned toward sexual, even if she was waifish and fragile and broken. I think she was waifish and fragile and messed up, but I didn’t see her as treated like a sexual object within the show. I will agree though, that it is shitty that this idea of sexy broken fragility and her characterization allow her to be seen that way. 

Plainly put, I think that to find River sexy is kind of gross. I think that she is a character who’s been horribly traumatized and hurt and those are not traits that SHOULD be sexy. But I think that more than we need to not have hurt female characters (though, yes, we need to have way fewer tragic backstories for our women, and way less of the bad-things-happening-to-girls (especially rape) plot device), we also need hurt women to not be a sexual thing to our society. 

That may start with having fewer broken girls in media, or getting rid of the trend altogether because yes - it does promote some sexist attitudes - but I don’t want to vilify the broken girls who already exist in media for being part of it. I want to redefine them as non-sexy characters by getting rid of the idea that broken is sexy in the first pace. And yes, I know that’s probably a flawed reaction, probably idealistic, probably ignores some key things. It’s just the reaction I get to seeing characters like River being regarded as sexy. 

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I honestly can’t believe this right now. I was complaining to my bf about some Kotex tampons I had used, going on a bit of a rant about how bad they were, and on a whim I decided to go to the website and leave a review so other people who might get them would know better.
I’ve never written a tampon review in my life (it’s not something I ever anticipated doing) so I had a little fun getting very passionate about my thoughts, and then went to submit…. Only to receive the words: ‘Your review text contains inappropriate language.’ I was confused at first, I mean I was pretty emphatic, but I didn’t cuss at all… and then I realized: I had typed the word ‘vagina.’ 

You can’t type the word ‘vagina’ on a TAMPON review because it’s considered inappropriate.

KOTEX, a company that makes OVER A BILLION DOLLARS A YEAR primarily selling products to people with vaginas, thinks that someone typing the word “VAGINA” in a review of a product that goes IN THEIR VAGINA is being inappropriate and needs to be censored.

I retyped “v*gina” with an asterisk like it was a swear word, submitted and it went to preview mode with no problem. But I’m still kind of in shock… Honestly, what is wrong with Kotex that they think they need to protect tampon users from the word ‘vagina’?

If you didn’t think our society’s fear of the vagina was absurd, here you go. It’s cartoonish.

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whedon’s weird “mysterious waifish little girl who is mentally ill but in a way that makes her doll-like and sexy” fixation is a plague that must be purged from the very face of mass media with the flames of a thousand hells 

I’ve seen a few posts about this apparent Whedon-Trend - I guess prompted by the after-credits scene in Guardians of the Galaxy? And maybe I’m not familiar enough with the Whedonverse to really get it but I will say that I have heard people refer to River as a “sexy” character. But I don’t know if in her case the problem was her characterization, as far as I can tell the problem is more in the attitude that messed-up young girls are a “sexy” thing. 
Like, I had heard people refer to River as Sexy before watching Firefly so as I was watching the show I was like, waiting for it. Waiting for her to be sultry or sensual or something and it never happened and I was left thinking “what the hell are people talking about, River isn’t sexy at all?” She’s introduced naked, she’ conventionally attractive, she’s powerful, but he’s not sexy. Her nudity is not done sexily, unless to your mind hurt and abused and scared are “sexy” traits. I guess in a lot of media and in the minds of some people they are and I think that’s gross - so I see why people are complaining, because breaking girls is getting old. But I think we need to somehow check that attitude toward broken girls in more than just media tropes. Honestly, I liked how it was done with River better than a lot of other interpretations of the trope. 

Anyway I watched Firefly half-waiting or expecting River to somehow be a “sexy” character and she wasn’t. And I later asked my boyfriend about it and he was like “what? No! River isn’t sexy. Malcolm Reynolds is sexy, but River?” 
And that’s why I like him. 

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